Choosing to stay in the “bypass closet” ….

I know people that are just finding out that I had the surgery are wondering why I didn't tell them before.    I (at this point) have not even told my own child.  He is grown and lives about 10 hours drive from me. 

  More people at work know that I have done it then people that I am friends with or related to.  The reason for that is I HAD to tell my manager and my co-workers, I had to be out for all the Dr’s appointments before I took the leave of absents for the surgery.   

As things go in a company with a lot of people working in the same building; people “gossip” its human nature.  I am not offended by that it’s just a fact.   My point is though, more people at work know then people that are the nearest and dearest to my heart. (Which I know is weird, but there is/was no way around them not knowing)

 Some of my friends that are just now learning about my surgery have taken it personal, as if it was some kind of affront to our friendship that I didn’t ‘share’ it with them.

Well, I have my own ideas about this; First (and for most) I had this surgery for me.  

Secondly the reason(s) I did not or have not told my friends and some family members are varied.  Not only was this an extremely personal choice. (This for me is an odd concept because for the most part, I am an open book about most things)

I was about to embark on a life changing event (MY LIFE) I did not want people trying to talk me out of it or make me question myself (more than I did)  I had made up my mind and wanted to see it through to completion.

I didn’t want to hear any of the “well you should try ….., that is so dangerous are you sure you want to do that, well why don’t you do what I did, there is a new (fad) diet. Ect ect ect ect.”

When I made my decision, I felt that I had exhausted every other avenue that I could. That is not to say that for every diet or weight loss program that I tried there weren’t another ten or more that I had not tried.  I have struggled with my weight since childhood, and I have tried one “diet” or another over and over and over, I was DONE, so I didn’t want to hear “it” from anyone.  

So that is it (for now) I am choosing to stay in the “bypass closet” I am not sending a ‘link’ to my Face book or my Twitter or any other “social media” that has my name on it.   I will tell my friends and family in my own time at my own pace.   In the mean time……….

Nearly anonymous

A.  Dawn