Wednesday, January 25, 2012

You don't know me from Adam


01-23-12
A couple of weekends ago I was on my way to the gym, but first I needed to get a can of air for my computer, so I stopped at an office supply store.   I was feeling so good about myself; here I was in my favorite purple gym shirt my little Capri gym pants (a size smaller mind you) had my hair in a pony tail my bangs looked cute, I ‘m feeling better AND I’m thinking, I look pretty good plus I am heading to the gym, which always makes me proud of myself.  I should be at that point I was three weeks out of the surgery and already walking a mile in just a few more than thirty minutes comfortably on the tread mill.
 I made my purchased and then stopped   at this table to get a cup of coffee.  You see, they are trying to get people to buy this coffee maker by using a display.  I have had this coffee and knew I liked it so I was waiting for the little old lady to finish up. I had lost a little over twenty pounds at this point and I was feeling just so great and really proud of myself.

The little old lady was having trouble figuring out the coffee maker.  Her daughter was helping her; I started looking through the stuff on the clearance table just waiting for my turn when a man approached me.   He came up and said “ I know I don’t know you from Adam, but…”  as he is saying that he is getting something out of his pocket and his hand starts to move his hand toward me, At that moment I was thinking;  A. He is some religious nut about to invite me to “service.”  B. he is going to ask me directions to someplace.  C. he is some representative for the coffee maker and is going to try to sell me one.   I put on my friendly but cautious smile and wait for the “pitch” if there is one.  I’m good with B. directions but I don’t care for choices A&C, I really dislike people trying to push their “products” down my throat.  So I am also sort of bracing and trying to prepare an on the spot refusal of the proposal.

The man hands me a card with such and such herbal supply on the front (sales my brain registers, I’m thinking vitamins, minerals and such) the man continues. With his “I know I don’t know you   from Adam, but we are having a weight loss seminar this evening at the such and such hotel and I would like to invite you as my guest.

I was flabbergasted!!!  REALLY?  He just invited me to a weight loss seminar, why he doesn’t know me he doesn’t know me from Adam he said so himself.   I was just floored and rendered speechless.  I stumbled what happened to my beauty and grace and feeling good about myself?  Right out the automatic door that’s where?  I felt my head drop, my shoulders slumped it was awful, what made it worse is that I was nice to him after that.

I handed the card back to that man and said “Thanks but I just had gastric bypass about a month ago. “  he said “oh, well I guess you won’t be needing this then. “ and put the card back into his pocket and said pulling it back out, “you don’t have a friend that is also heavy do you? “ My mouth opened but before I could utter a sound he continued “This stuff is great it helps with….” At this point he started listing bodily organs and functions.   He continued with “ … and it’s all natural so there is no surgery involved” at which point he gave me a condescending look and finished with “but it’s too late for you, since you have already had the surgery. “  I blurted out “yes I have and I am already off my diabetic medicine and I already feel way better. “He said. “Well best of luck to you and went out the door.”

I just stood stunned, I got my coffee and went to the gym but my zeal was gone.  I felt fat and dumpy ashamed and sad.

 I feel quite certain that if my boyfriend had been with me that man would not been comfortable enough to approach me.  I also feel that if I were a man that man would have not approached me or if he did it would have been in a different manner, however given his demeanor I really don’t think he would have.

What is wrong with people that they think that they can just come up to someone that they don’t even know and say something like that to them?

A.Dawn

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